In general I don't think of my son as particularly fidgety. Sometimes yes, but it's not like he can never sit still. But sometimes when I sit down for our Suzuki violin practice, his fidgeting really tries my patience. He might play the piece that he's supposed to, but only if he's spinning around on his feet while he does it. Or he will wiggle so much between songs I'm afraid he will drop his violin, and sometimes it drives me crazy.
But finally I came to peace with it, and realized: these figets are part of him, this "mischannelled" energy is not separate from his creativity, and trying hard at this age of 4 to get him to stand perfectly still is as likely to suppress this spirit as it is to cultivate it in some idealized way. So I let him express himself physically this way, trusting that in due time he will be able to stand as still as he needs to and all that energy that spins him around will still be there working with him. I have no desire to work against that.
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Why so few posts?
About the fidgeting, according to someone I spoke to, it is to aid concentration, since the moving helps the brain fluid circulate better which helps thinking in little ones. They doing when a task requires a lot of brain effort. Trying to read and write will probably be the same!
Thanks for your comment!
I like the "aid to concentration" interpretation of fidgeting even though to the naive adult (say, me) it can look like quite the opposite of concentration.
Now that you mention it, I can think of several examples when he really was trying hard to focus on something difficult and the fidgeting really increased a lot.
re: "Why so few posts?" I have no particular reason but thank you for asking. My house is still filled with kids making a music so I have no excuse of lack of material.
It looks like you are a Suzuki parent too. How long have you been a Suzuki parent?
no, I am not a suzuki parent, there is only one program here in HK and it is for violin and its really far away. but I am interested in it.
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